Middle-aged, married and loving it

15 October 2005

Have you ever noticed the generation gap in women, both pertaining to attitudes and opinions, and also general level of happiness?

There are two women at my workplace who were born and raised before feminism. They’re in their late 50s and are seemingly the most cheerful and pleasant ladies on Earth. They spent most of their adulthood as housewives and full-time mothers, but are now in the workforce, just doing general secretarial work to keep themselves occupied and taking some pressure off of their hardworking husbands on the bread winning front.

It’s incredible how infectiously happy these middle-aged matriarchs are. They’re always smiling, always chattering on about their husbands, and they ambush anyone who walks past their desks – colleagues and clients alike – to show off the latest photos of their grandchildren. Even though I’m 30-years-old they refer to me as “love” and “chuck” all the time, as if I’m some pubescent nephew, which is kinda sweet really.

Contrast that to the women (I won’t call them ladies, because they’re not) of my generation, aged 20-35. These younger ladies, mostly, are full of spite and hate towards men, and this naturally makes men avoid them, which only fuels their misandrist attitudes. And on and on the circle goes. So few women in this age group are married. Some are pushing 30 but still living at home, not having had a boyfriend since their teens. On and on the rage goes.

Perhaps these younger women may console themselves with the fact that they have a job and a salary and, if they’re lucky, they may even have an office of their own someday, maybe even one with windows. But they’ll no doubt be pissed off – and I’m already seeing the prologue to such pissed-offness – that all the offices and salary in the world won’t console them as they go to bed alone each night and die as childless spinsters.

It’s so funny, in sad kind of way, that modern women practically spit on the previous generation of women for not being in-your-face feminist grrrl-power career women, yet, these in-your-face feminist grrrl-power career women are the ones growing ever more spiteful, neurotic, and above all lonely, whilst the previous generation of women seem quite content with how their lives “under the Evil Patriarchy (TM) ” turned out.

Like I said, it’s sad. But in a funny kinda way.

posted by Duncan Idaho @ 4:08 PM

At 8:14 PM, TestSubjectXP said…

There’s another generation gap forming. Talk to teenage girls today. Most of them have a “I know I’m supposed to be mad at guys for something, but I can’t figure out what it is” kinda attitude.

Thanks to those that grew up in the grrl power era, girls today have damn near no direction for themselves.


At 4:39 PM, MarkyMark said…


I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about! I remember this woman I used to work with (I’ll call her Donna), and she was in her mid-late 40s when I worked with her from 1999-2001. Anyway, she and her husband (a fireman whose schedule allowed him to frequently visit her, and he often did) were like a couple of high school kids, still in love after all these years! She never spoke ill of him; if anything, she said nice things about him. Because she was good to her husband, he got her a new, Lincoln LS…

There were plenty of younger women in the office. I never got the impression that they saw a CONNECTION between Donna’s goodness to her husband, and his willingness to show his appreciation though-silly women…


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