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02 February 2007

Happiness: Living The Life Of A Bachelor

I’ll never get married. There are few incentives today to do so. The institution of marriage is pointless and without merit. The divorce rate, coupled with an unhealthy society, are more than enough reasons to avoid it like a bad neighborhood. As for relationships? I’ve never been happy in one, so what’s the point?

A truly superb and honest article by NG forum regular Ronald Lewis. In fact, Ronald has just started a new website, Male Reform. It’s evidently under construction, but looks promising.

posted by Duncan Idaho @ 10:21 PM

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At 11:56 PM, Rae Ann said…

Hi I’m an “old school” housewife in a pretty happy marriage because I let him be the man and he lets me be the woman. đŸ˜‰ I do agree that feminism has pretty much ruined things.

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At 12:04 AM, Anonymous said…

Excellent blog as usual, I’ll be straight with you guys I have never wanted to marry or have kids (like many here did want originally which is fine but) because I am a real loner by nature (just for the record I enjoy my long hours alone and I am not depressed like the stereotype suggests). However it was finding this site by chance that Feminism really woke me up even more to the bullshit that men have to put up with. I thought a few times about living the whole married with kids life because I thought I wasn’t normal otherwise. Society in general doesn’t understand lone wolfs as myself but now I truly don’t give a fuck. I know even my father is bored of his marriage, because he has mentioned women he thinks about and has flirted with women many times in bars when I have been with him. I don’t blame my dad I care for my mum but damn she is very bitchy at times I have seriously thought about whether she has been influenced by Feminism. I will enjoy my bachelor days until I die and will only be with a woman for sex, because to be honest thats the only reason I have only ever had for being with a women when I was 12, 16, now 22 I always have felt the same way. I never chased after women in my youth years the women would ask me out only a few I said yes to the others I regretted. Surprise surprise those relationships didn’t last, I didn’t enjoy them and was happy when I finished the relationships. I have been single for 5 years now and never look back I wouldn’t have it any other way. Now in college I still don’t care about chasing pussy like the blatantly desperate men in my college class. Hell If I really do feel THAT desperate for a shag I would pay for an escort I don’t care what others think about it. Screw that maybe I’ll stick to masturbation it’s safer and no risks of nasty incurable STDs.

Cheers to the single life guys.

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At 2:20 PM, Anonymous said…

“Hi I’m an “old school” housewife in a pretty happy marriage because I let him be the man and he lets me be the woman. đŸ˜‰ I do agree that feminism has pretty much ruined things.”

I assume that means that he works his ass off supporting you and you shop, watch Oprah and possibly put your foot down when something really concerns you (but he has to otherwise worry about the details and possibly clean up after your messes in life) – that’s a “traditional” marriage.

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At 2:48 PM, JH said…

It is a little strange to be saying this, but you guys are far too nice to the women out there. I was always the “conservative” girl in school. I got married early. Let me tell you, most women out there have had LOTS of sex partners. The idea that there are two kinds of men, those you have sex with and those you marry, is the rule.

Basically, a lot of women like to fall in love over and over. This really means having sex with a new guy every few weeks or every few months. The guys who won’t commit are perfect for this. These are the guys they f**k.

The guys they marry are the traditional guys who didn’t find a traditional woman earlier on. Women tell all their friends to hush up about their past. They find a decent guy and go after him like it is a religious crusade. Once married, sex stops and paying to keep her happy is the rule.

Lots of women would scratch my eyes out for telling this, but it is the RULE 80% of women go by. There are men you f**k, and men you marry.

I see clearly why good guys are angry. My husband and I are happy together, but it is an extra incentive for my husband to make the marriage work when he sees how horrible things are out in the single world.

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At 2:56 PM, Anonymous said…

many men are ugly smelly selfish razorbacks with an overblown sense of entitlement their dicks smell, their bodies smell and i hope the majority of them fuck off and go to hell where they belong – u bitter man did mummy give u too many enemas when you were a kid or something

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At 4:36 PM, CLovIS said…

“many men are ugly smelly selfish razorbacks with an overblown sense of entitlement their dicks smell, their bodies smell and i hope the majority of them fuck off and go to hell where they belong – u bitter man did mummy give u too many enemas when you were a kid or something”

Sounds like you are the bitter one cupcake lol.

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At 5:04 PM, mfsob said…

*laughs at anonymous 2:56 p.m.* What’s the matter, sweet cheeks, someone derail your entitlement train?

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At 5:28 PM, Mr. Misogynist said…

I’m a bachelor.

I’ve never been married, never had a real relationship with a woman. Straight as an arrow, and have a very nice job. Am I lonely? No. I have a fairly new (2005) Harley-Davidson Electra Glide Standard (rather heavily customized), and a newer (2006) Harley-Davidson Heritage Softail (also extensively customized in a blacked-out/chrome theme).

I don’t have time to be lonely. I spend most of my income buying and customizing Harley’s, and when lonely, I ride. And then ride again. And I usually ride alone. Happily.

I’m far from being rich. I simply never waste five cents on a woman.

EVER.

I never date.

Ever.

Life is good when you finally stop dealing with women. Not with hate, mind you. Just quiet and peaceful resignation that all women are demon spawn to be avoided.

Leave women to the devil. That’s where they belong.

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At 5:40 PM, feminist_scum said…

Your husband is a very lucky guy, JH. It’s always awesome to see women like you existing out in the real World.

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At 5:44 PM, feminist_scum said…

I’m 22, almost 22, and have no plans on getting in to a relationship/marriage.

The chances of meeting a great woman are slim today, so slim, I don’t expect to find my ideal woman. I’m not exactly happy about this, but by no means am I depressed about it.

Loads of women have taken an interest in me through out my years, and I’ve said no to them every single time. You’ve gotta be careful about who you get involved with guys. I guess you don’t need me to tell you that though. đŸ™‚

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At 8:20 PM, Anonymous said…

LOL duncan thought id show u this bullshit. this may be old but i never saw it before.

this woman does the typical shit, blames cheating on the man and tries to dilute it with acting like she’s saying the same thing for the other side:

“Women have faced this kind of competition squarely for years. Say you marry your college heartthrob. Ten years later, he’s working with some good-looking gals–nymphets just out of college, or the more sophisticated types who spent two years building houses in Africa before they went to Stanford Business School. What do you do? A: Stay home, whine and eat chocolate. B: Take up rock climbing, read interesting books and continue to develop that interesting personality he fell in love with in the first place.

Note to guys: Start by going to the gym. Then try some new music. Or a book. Or a movie. Keep connected to the rest of the world. You’ll win–and so will your marriage.”

First notice the hidden whine “for years”. Only whats happened in mine and your life you have experienced. This is common sense stupidfuck.

She fails to acknowledge that women age. So instead of “Take up rock climbing, read interesting books and continue to develop that interesting personality he fell in love with in the first place.” how about you stay the same physically?

Which proves this bitch has a double-standard and tries to cover it up. If either side cheats it’s their fault. This feminist-caused shit about ‘if u gave her what she “needed” she wouldn’t have cheated’

Sorry I am very bad at putting together my thoughts in english but I guess u get it.

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At 8:28 PM, Rae Ann said…

“I assume that means that he works his ass off supporting you and you shop, watch Oprah and possibly put your foot down when something really concerns you (but he has to otherwise worry about the details and possibly clean up after your messes in life) – that’s a “traditional” marriage.”

Oh, please, this is exactly the reason why no woman would have you. You see, men like you forget one thing. When a man asks a woman to give up all of her potential outside of the home to support his life and ambitions he should want to make her life as comfortable as she makes his. By “old school” I meant more like June Cleaver who pampers her man instead of doing all the things you’ve stereotypically mentioned. I rarely go recreational shopping and I hate Oprah and her ilk.

I was just trying to make a nice, supportive comment about how feminism has ruined many things, and what you do is attack me like some kind of emotional retard?

My point about marriage is that it’s a PARTNERSHIP that requires work, sacrifice, and cooperation from both sides. Apparently, many men aren’t capable of even that kind of equality, not the kind of “equality” that feminism promotes, because it does require having concern and consideration for another human being and not being so selfish. If the latter describes you then please, don’t ever marry. Or reproduce. That’s fine by me.

As for the guys who paint all women as evil or whatever, they are just lesser evolved emotionally and really shouldn’t damage any women with their problems.

So much for being a nice woman when you get attacked for being nice!

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At 11:43 PM, Anonymous said…

I’m anonymous at 2:20 p.m.

Rae Ann writes:

“Oh, please, this is exactly the reason why no woman would have you.”

I didn’t say no woman would have me. Otherwise, that sounds pretty much like shaming language if you don’t know my situation. I don’t personally want a sit-at-home wife. That doesn’t rule out all women, and that doesn’t rule me out for women who can get up off their butt. Pumpkin. LOL

“You see, men like you forget one thing. When a man asks a woman to give up all of her potential outside of the home to support his life and ambitions he should want to make her life as comfortable as she makes his.”

I wouldn’t ever ask a woman to give up her “potential”. Not in a heartbeat. Not even as a K-Mart cashier, a coat-rack girl at a discotheque or an up-and-coming golddigger.

Although I feel for the women who have given up their lucrative careers as low-earning office drudges to sacrifice themselves to a high-earning man. Big car and house, no work. I want to find out how I can sacrifice myself.

I realize that some men still want some stay-at-home user for God knows what reason. And I wish them the best of luck. Really, I do.

I just personally have no (as in “no”) respect for women who sit on their duffs. And I’ve never had a problem with being sued for alimony.

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At 11:46 PM, Anonymous said…

“So much for being a nice woman when you get attacked for being nice!”

People are going to disagree with you out in the real world. Maybe you can send out your husband to beat everyone up who disagrees with you, though.

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At 12:45 AM, Mike D said…

Looks like “Anon 2:20” was right about little rea_ann.

“When a man asks a woman to give up all of her potential outside of the home to support his life and ambitions he should want to make her life as comfortable as she makes his.”

Potential? What potential? If you weren’t married you’d be a rocket scientist? Or more like another career woman with a cushy office job and lots of starbucks breaks? Or perhaps a waitress at Denny’s?

I love how modern women like to brag about how great they think they are when they’re really just a bunch of delusional narcissists.

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At 1:01 AM, Anonymous said…

Rae Ann is right. That comment was out of line and we absolutely should not be attacking helpful women out there who see men as partners to be worked with and supported, not competitors to be vanquished.

We need some serious gender healing and we will make no progress whatsoever by assuming the posture of hate that has so poisoned feminists and which helped get us into this problem in the first place.

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At 1:35 AM, Christopher in Oregon said…

Rae Ann;

It takes very little to bait a woman so she will show her true colors. Many women come to places like this professing support, but when they’re not greeted with open arms, they resort to the usual female/feminist/lesbian insults.

It really doesn’t matter to me. I have no hope for women anyway, as you are all truly cut from the same cloth. When push comes to shove, you always defend your lesbian sisters.

Enjoy your cats, my dear, and always be on the look-out for battery sales and stock up!

Christopher in Oregon

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At 3:56 AM, Anonymous said…

Hi, I am a 38 year old male from Australia, and I once foolishly and naively thought genuine nice guys like myself were what women wanted.

How wrong was I!!!!!

If I had received a dollar for every time someone woman has told me about her former “bad boy/thug lover”, I would be richer than Bill Gates!!!

Yet these same women always complain that there are no “good (rich$$$$) men” out there, whilst telling guys like me that I am nice person but they only want to be “just friends”. In other words, what they really want is some bad boy/thug.

Anyway, I am so glad that I have discovered so many excellent anti-feminist blogs like “the Eternal Bachelor”. These blogs have totally exposed feminism for the evil fraud that is.

I used to get very depressed about my lack of success with the opposite sex, but not anymore.When you constantly hear the horror stories about men that get financially arse-raped in the family/divorce courts, then I probably better off single. If I need sex that badly, then I simply pay for an escort – far cheaper than a wife, and no strings attached.

Please do not take me the wrong way, I have 100% respect for loyal,kind & warm women,but today all I see are rude, aggressive and increasingly narcissistic women.

Seb
Sydney,Australia.

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At 4:49 AM, Anonymous said…

I don’t hate women. In fact, I think it’s time they get some payback for all the years they were oppressed.

So, I’ll stay home and give up all my amazing opportunities to work till I’m 60, and she can support me for the rest of my life. Just don’t let her forget that I’m the one with the 24 hour 7 day a week job. She better respect that and give me everything I want, or I’ll just have to settle for a fat alimony check, child support, half of her assets, and half of her retirement benefits.

C’mon ladies, oppress away! Hey, where you going! It’s payback time! I’m ready to take my punishment for being a man! Hey! Get back here!

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At 5:29 AM, BR said…

Looks like even the “nice” women are still singing that “I sacrificed my career for him!” song. Some things never change.

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At 5:36 AM, Ulrich said…

Anon at 12:04 way up at the top,

If you feel inclined, “Party of One” is a good read about the Lone Wolfs in society. You sound a lot like me, heh.

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At 5:42 AM, Ulrich said…

ack, it’s called “Party of One: The Loners Manifesto” by Anneli Rufus.

Btw Duncan, if you read the comments this far down and are interested in adding it to your links, I’ve started my own MRA blog.

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At 8:10 AM, Anonymous said…

“many men are ugly smelly selfish razorbacks with an overblown sense of entitlement their dicks smell, their bodies smell and i hope the majority of them fuck off and go to hell where they belong – u bitter man did mummy give u too many enemas when you were a kid or something”

Know lots of stinky men – I work with them. They sweat, they fart, they belch, and sometimes they wear the same pants 2 days in a row. But I’d take those aromas over the stench of vagina any day. I mean to be as offensive as possible here when I say: plenty of American women stink downstairs, and it’s really enough to put me off of dating because you just never know what you’re going to get. When your vagina smells that bad, you ain’t no princess in my book – I don’t care how hot a body you have.

And let’s not get started on your average American woman’s sense of entitlement, blatant sexism, and inherent insecurity.

You ladies want your independence, you got it. Sure, hurts to be alone sometimes. But it hurts less than being in a modern relationship.

Out of a Relationship = don’t get what I want

In a Relationship = don’t get what I want, plus have to adjust every minuscule detail of my life to suit her needs lest needless conflict and drama arise

Hmmm…what a tough choice.

Vote with your feet gentlemen. These days, hobbies are likely to be more rewarding than marriage or family.

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At 10:10 AM, Misogynic_Gent said…

Oh, please, this is exactly the reason why no woman would have you.

Do you speak for every woman? He may have been a bit out of line (debatable) but statements like this are uncalled-for and akin to gibberish parroted by “fembots” or trolls. Settle down, Rae ann.

You see, men like you forget one thing. When a man asks a woman to give up all of her potential outside of the home to support his life and ambitions he should want to make her life as comfortable as she makes his.

That’s silly, much less something I’d want to remember. There are several things wrong with what you said here:

First, his desire to make her life comfortable should be an extension of his love and nothing else.

Second, sacrificing any potential outside the home was solely her decision. Consequently, he owes her nothing for lost potential. And since potential is virtually immeasurable, any amount can be concocted by women to justify doing diddly-squat, while brazenly insisting that their husband still owes them.

Third, what kind of potential are we talking about? Revolutionary inventions and cures or petty career gals taking advantage of affirmative action?

Last but not least, do you ever bring up all your lost potential in arguments with your husband? You know, that could easily destroy a healthy marriage. You should never bring that up, cause it’s feminist rubbish. I suggest you consider your vows, take full responsibility for your choice and expunge yourself of that toxic mentality.

You should also know that homemakers who help instill decency in their children are superior to childless career women. If the former describes you, then that’s a compliment.

By “old school” I meant more like June Cleaver who pampers her man instead of doing all the things you’ve stereotypically mentioned. I rarely go recreational shopping and I hate Oprah and her ilk.

Just so you realize, the stereotype is generally true. Why do you think Oprah is so renown? Women like you (assuming you’re genuine) are a rarity.

I was just trying to make a nice, supportive comment about how feminism has ruined many things, and what you do is attack me like some kind of emotional retard?

That’s fine but if you really wanted to be supportive you should have simply responded to his points instead of going on the warpath.

My point about marriage is that it’s a PARTNERSHIP that requires work, sacrifice, and cooperation from both sides. Apparently, many men aren’t capable of even that kind of equality, not the kind of “equality” that feminism promotes, because it does require having concern and consideration for another human being and not being so selfish. If the latter describes you then please, don’t ever marry. Or reproduce. That’s fine by me.

I agree that even traditional marriage requires cooperation, but with man as head of household. This of course means that he rightly endures the blunt of responsibility. But as you can see, feminism has caused men to gravitate away from this obviously superior way of life.

So much for being a nice woman when you get attacked for being nice!

Be nice if that’s what you are, but don’t do it for praise or reward.

It’s interesting that you chose to dwell on only the negative feedback. It reminds me of how NYmom complained about EB regressing into Jerry Springer, only to converse in such a manner as to incite a hostile climate. She chose to do that rather than engage in the constructive debate that I presented twice.

All that aside, if you’re a good homemaker as you claim, then I find that respectable and wish you luck in your marriage. And if you want to keep your marriage healthy, I suggest you never bring up “lost potential” as you did here.

You’re lucky to have found a man willing to risk getting married, and he’s lucky to have found a trustworthy wife.

-John

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At 10:17 AM, Misogynic_Gent said…

Basically, a lot of women like to fall in LUST(not love) over and over. This really means having sex with a new guy every few weeks or every few months. The guys who won’t commit are perfect for this. These are the guys they f**k.

Fixed. Thanks for sharing all that, JH.

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At 3:52 PM, Anonymous said…

37, single and loving it. Just got out of a 5+ year relationship.

To much work, it was starting to get like I was her servant or something.

Thanks to girls like her I have no desire to ever marry, co-habitate, or even waste any more time and money dating.

All I can say is keep watching Oprah girls, watch her to your hearts content.

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At 4:09 PM, Lisa said…

Rae Ann, Eternal Bachelor is a great site to read about real experiences men face every day as a result of feminism. There are all types of men here: married, divorced, single with the hopes of marriage, single with no desire to marry, gay, straight. If you are truly interested in learning more about how feminism is working against men (and women), hang out a bit and read and process. You will come to realize ways where feminism has crawled into some of your habits and thought processes that my not have occurred to you. This isn’t an attack. Not in the least. If you spend some time here digesting, you will go back to your post here and read it with new eyes. I guarantee it. If you are able to do that, your marriage will be better that it is even now. Misogynistic Gent is right, simple figures of speech like the sacrifices women have made by giving up their potential are toxic. The habit of reacting quickly with assumptions and focusing on the negative is another one. Again, not an attack, just an observation. Go back an read older posts and read some of the comments women have offered. You will see why some here might jump to conclusions about women who post here. There have been several who have professed an interest in men’s rights and a concern for the ills of feminism only to go off the deep end a short time later.

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At 8:48 PM, Christopher in Oregon said…

Rae Ann;

Since you are, I assume, too dense to listen to the wisdom of men, then listen to Lisa, apparently one of the “one-in-a-million” women who actually understands men and life.

Christopher in Oregon

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At 8:07 PM, Anonymous said…

Hey man—

Checked out your blog after the message you left me. guess there a lot of people out there feeling the same thanks.

Brad

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At 9:07 PM, zed said…

Give up her potential…“, … for little-old me?!!! Not on your life, I would never stand still for such a thing!!!! LOL!!

So, rae ann, do you want a medal for not being as relentlessly toxic as the average woman these days?

You are seeing several very interesting things happening here.

First, your immediate reversion to victim mode and personal attacks exposed the lie that you are any different from the women that men here complain about.

Second, even if you were as you presented yourself to be, what you offer is far too little and far too late. The old breadwinner role as the foundation for male identity has been almost completely destroyed over the past 40 years while women like you remained silent counting your ill-gotten gains and obsessing about that “potential” you sacrificed. Your insincere “appreciation” has become as meaningless to younger men as women’s relentless bashing has had to become. Younger men today are far more comfortable with letting their wives “bring home the bacon” and let them be the ones to “fry it up in a pan.”

Third, and far more ominous for women, is that the failure of your attempts to attack and shame the men here point out that what has been women’s traditional power ploy is now beginning to fail for all women. Women like you stood by while the femnasties destroyed your power, and didn’t say jack-all about it. Now that women are beginning to wise up, there is a steady stream of them coming through blogs like this pretending to be on men’s side – for one or two posts before they show their true colors.

Any idiot could have predicted years ago that this would be the result of all the hatred and bashing which women have poured on men. It is sad for women that so many sub-idiots bought the line of feminidiocy and expected men to keep doing like they were no matter how awful women became.

To quote Gomer Pyle – “Surprise, surprise, surprise.”

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At 1:42 PM, Anonymous said…

Someone who ‘gives up their potential’ for whatever reason has essentially SURRENDERED THEIR EXISTENCE… having made themselves WORTHLESS.

Speaks to a horribly devoid sense of self.

They take it to an even worse level when they proclaim their self affected worthlessness as a virtue.

l could never invite that into my life. Such a person is redundant… they have made themselves so. They revel in their emptiness.

How sad.

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At 11:21 AM, Anonymous said…

Yep, this Rae Ann clit had shown her true colors in the inside of a nanosecond, eh lads…?

Haaahahahaha….

Just the sliiiiiightest little nudge or tuft of a mere syllable of truth from a male and this bitch just goes flaaaaailing over the edge…

And naturally, she’s totally LIED about her marriage, too..

Such serial liars they be…

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